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Transition: The Awkward Space of Grey



I cried really hard last night. I’m in a transitional season—sometimes filled with wonder and excitement, and other times met with uncontrollable tears.


It reminds me of when I cut my hair in 2017 and decided to grow it out in 2018. Those in-between months? Hideous. Let’s be honest: there’s nothing quite like that awkward mushroom phase when you’re trying to grow your hair back. It’s not long enough to be a bob and not short enough to be a pixie cut. It’s just... there. That’s how my life feels right now—like an awkward long pixie short bob. Just call me Dora the Church Mother.


Transition is defined as the process or period of changing from one state or condition to another. As uncomfortable and unfamiliar as this space may be, it serves as a precursor to realizing our dreams. This is why I believe many people forfeit the life they desire; we resist that awkward moment of uncertainty. None of us really want the embarrassing mushroom cut.


It’s reminiscent of the Israelites wandering in the wilderness. They had been delivered from slavery in Egypt (Exodus 12:31-42) but faced a long, uncertain journey before reaching the Promised Land (Numbers 14:1-4). Similarly, I’m navigating my own wilderness—trying to figure it all out like a first-year college student. How did I get here? That’s a story for another time. The important thing is that I’m here. Right in the thick of it. So, I jumped in the shower and sobbed. Amid my tears, I was reminded of a note I drafted last month:

Maybe it’s not time YET. Perhaps you’re meant to sit in that grey space to undo and become. There’s something in the ambiguity that can make you more carefree and more malleable. The in-between can cultivate resilience, courage, and confidence. Maybe this middle ground is meant to remind you who’s really in control. Instead of trying to have everything figured out, give yourself permission to be carefree before the Lord. Embrace the uncertainty, knowing that it is often through these transitions that we discover our true selves and the plans God has for us.

From there, I began to reflect on other transitional journeys in the Bible and the lessons we can take to navigate our wilderness like seasons.


1. Embrace the Journey: Like Joseph, who went from being a favored son to a slave and then to a leader in Egypt (Genesis 41:46), recognize that your current challenges are most likely shaping you for something greater.


2. Seek God’s Guidance: Just as Moses encountered God in the wilderness (Exodus 3:1-10) and received direction for his mission, take time to pray and seek divine guidance. Be open to the new paths God may have for you, even if they seem unclear right now.


3. Lean on Community: During times of transition, it’s essential to surround yourself with supportive people. Just as Ruth found strength in her commitment to Naomi (Ruth 1:16-17), reach out to those who can walk alongside you, sharing both burdens and joys.


So, let’s sit in this grey space together, trusting that something beautiful is unfolding even as we navigate the awkwardness of it all. Remember, you can be certain of your destination while being uncertain of how you will get there. These are the moments when our faith is most radiant.


P.S. If you are in a season of transition relationally, professionally, or purposefully trust me YOU are not alone. There are a lot of us out here. And we will be at the TEA Party on December 28th in Atlanta. Please come if you can. We need each other. We are offering 30% off of early registration with promo code wild. See you soon!





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