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undoing & becoming

What’s more, your relative Elizabeth has become pregnant in her old age! People used to say she was barren, but she has conceived a son and is now in her sixth month. Luke 1:36

When I entered corporate America about 15 years ago, I would have to do a series of sales presentations in front of senior leaders in our company. At the end of each presentation, I would stand there awaiting their feedback. The feedback was consistent, “you’re too soft-spoken.” Soft-spoken.

When I was a freshman in college, I worked part-time at a fast-food restaurant in Dallas. While working the drive-thru, my high school English teacher pulled up one Saturday. As I handed her 2-piece dark with fries, she said to me, “I hope you’re not causing those people the same trouble you caused me.” A troublemaker.

When I graduated college, I remember having an intense argument with an ex-boyfriend. As I was leaving his house, he yelled, “you will be lonely and single like the rest of your friends!” Lonely. Single.

I can go through a long list of things people used to say about me. The words of my past pierced me to my soul. It felt so final. So official. I thought, man, these people have me all figured out. I was a soft-spoken troublemaker that would forever be lonely and single.

In reading this scripture, I was immediately drawn to “people used to say she was barren.” God was undoing the words of what people used to say about Elizabeth as she was in the process of becoming a mom. The word undo also means incomplete. In other words, man does not have the final say. What people used to say about Elizabeth was incomplete. There was another part of her story that was yet to unfold. I want to remind you of Philippians 1:6, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Anything spoke over you that is out of alignment with who God says you are, is INCOMPLETE.

This is your season to SHOW UP as the woman you were always becoming. Of course, as you’re becoming, the undoing will happen. But, be ok with releasing your old identity to embrace a newer, more authentic version of yourself. It is never too late to change. Even if people think they have you all figured out. Even if people are comfortable with who you used to be. People used to say I was soft-spoken, and now people ask me to speak. People used to say I was a troublemaker, and now people seek my advice on finding peace in their lives. People used to say I would be lonely and single, and now I am in year 10 of my marriage.

God will bring an end to what people used to say about you when their words don’t line up with what He says about you. Walk into the newness of who God says you are. You are not required to be an expired version of yourself to make others comfortable. Your transformation is your testimony.

So, girl, Show Up…become and watch God undo.


How are you showing up this year? Are you still living up to what people used to say about you? What must be undone so that you can become?


My prayer for you this month: I pray that this year brings an end to your barren season. Wherever you felt inadequate, I pray that you begin to conceive love, joy, peace, faith, and hope. I pray that you walk into the newness of who God has created you to be. I pray that the old things begin to pass away, including what others used to say and think about you, including what you used to say and feel about yourself. I pray that God begins to undo any strongholds in your life that refuse to let you become. I pray you to make peace with the newness of who you are. I pray you are comforted in those moments when you begin to grieve who you once were. Finally, I pray you show up fully confident in your new skin. Amen.

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